And the people gained confidence from what Hezekiah the king of Judah said. ….(2 Chronicles 32:8)
Have your words ever shut down someone’s dreams? Mine have. Have you ever served to be more of a discourager with your words than an encourager? That’s certainly been me as well. Our words can hold so much power.
I remember when I bought a car years ago the gentleman selling me the car was telling me about one of his co-workers who made over well over 100,000 dollars a year selling cars. He said, “Every year his co-worker sends his salary total to his dad. The reason his co-worker works so hard now is that when he was young, his dad told him he would never amount to anything.” His story about his co-worker and his co-worker’s father made me sad. I saw an unhealthy drive to prove his father wrong, because of such terrible words this man spoke into such a young boys heart.
As parents, wives, husband’s and friends our words can hold so much power. I think this is especially true for wives. I have watched my husband deflate in front of me as I’ve spoken a discouraging word into him and I’ve seen him rise up and start to believe in himself when I started to speak words of belief and faith.
If I could be quite honest, I think most of my life I have spoken words of unbelief into people. I may not have always said them out loud, but I have certainly believed them in my heart. I probably do this more than I care to admit. I often see a critical spirit shoot venomous words into my heart and soul trying to make me believe that people will never change, they’ll always be this way and that person will never be able to accomplish what they would like to do.”
The one thing I appreciate about working for a great organization like Ministry Architects is that working for them is like always having a cheerleader on my side. Even when I miss a few shots or drop the ball from time to time, I am met with grace and encouragement. This belief in me makes me want to do better. It makes me want to rise to the top. Instead of using shame and fear, they use grace and love. Isn’t this what we all desire? To have someone believe in us? To have a cheerleader on our side who says, “you’re doing a great job,” and takes notice of our hard work?
Instead of always finding something to be critical about maybe we (myself included) should always be looking for something good in others that we can start speaking life into. You see, that’s the kind of person I want to be for others and I’m growing in becoming that person who speaks life, love, and encouragement into everyone I meet.
Lord, grow my heart and as you do make my words like life and peace for others. I long to be the kind of woman who speaks more encouraging words than discouraging words. Lord, forgive me when my heart entertains negative critical thoughts about people. Instead, may I be quick to thank you for their presence in my life and encourage them in the ways they are gifted. Father, glorify your name, in me, I pray, in Jesus name, Amen.