“Here are my mother and my brothers!….(Mk 3:34).
All of us want to belong to something, do we not? On many levels in life we’re looking for family. If we lack a place that feels and acts like family, we’ll be missing some main ingredients for growth within our lives.
If the home is not safe, then family has become a place that you want to run from, but rest assured this person will go looking for family elsewhere. Because we all need somewhere or someplace to belong. Sometimes they find it church, other times they find it in friends, or relationships, albeit healthy or unhealthy.
There was a time in my life when I needed family, outside of my immediate family the most. Unfortunately the door became closed for me and what used to feel like family now felt like prison bars I stood behind, only hoping to get in. That was such a painful experience. It was heartbreaking on so many levels, because the place where I needed family the most became a place where the door became closed.
Maybe you’ve experienced something similar. It’s quite possible your own family has shunned you, a child wants nothing to do with you or some other place you used to call home has now shut their doors on you for whatever reason. If that’s the case, I am so sorry.
If there was one thing I learned through my season of trial it was that God is my husband. He is my provider, my daddy and my friend. If others shut you out or forget you, be reminded that your Heavenly Father never will. Most likely, them shutting you out really has to do with an issue in their heart that has yet to be surrounded to God, so don’t take it personal.
What I have found is that people stop receiving us like family because they forget that, as Christians, family is what we are. We are not a building, a program or a even a vision. We are first and foremost, a family, working together, in all our messiness. Being held together in the arms of a loving Father who receives us as His own.
If you’ve ever shut someone out, please seek their forgiveness. If you’ve ever experienced a shutting out, please know that your Heavenly Father loves you.
Usually when people are shut out it has something to do with an issue in their life, a failure on their part or a brokenness they’re still working through. But you see, what people need is not a reminder of their failures, but a push towards their potential. As we draw out the potential of people being who are made in the image of God, we can help them, like any family would, become the very best they can be as image bearers of the Lord Jesus Christ.
We my friends are a spiritual family. Do not forget that you were once an alien and a stranger, but God who is rich in grace brought you into His family. Do not take that for granted and do not lack grace towards your brothers and sisters in Christ, no matter where they are in their journey.
Lord, thank you that in you I have a place to belong. I have a papa in you. I have a friend and a provider. Truly, everything I have in you is enough. Thank you for being my daddy and my friend. Thank you for being a safe place for me to land and thank you for never leaving me, in Jesus name, Amen.