A Healthy Approach to Dealing with Betrayal

But the fruit of the Spirit is love….(Galatians 5:22).

Have you ever had someone offer you fake love? Offering loving words to your face, but then, at the blink of an eye, they turn right around and betray you? If you have, I totally understand.
There is a part of me, even still, that asks God for a fuller redemption of that, wondering when and if He’s going to do it. Then there’s another part of me that says, “Heather, let it all go. Let the memories of those moments go and release them in time and space to your Heavenly Father who is working all things together for your good and for His great purpose.”
Betrayal is false love in the most insidious form. It’s devastating because you thought you trusted a person only to find out that the person loved themselves more than you But, you can’t fault them for that, because you’ve done it too. I know I’ve prioritized my own self over others. Therefore, I have to be very careful to not allow false love to enter my heart and lips. I have to be willing to go to hard places in my heart with God so I don’t betray the people God loves.
You see, when Jesus hung upon the cross He had been beaten, and terribly betrayed by someone extremely close to Him. Jesus held no grudges. He made no plea with His heavenly Father, demanding justice, as I have done. He simply entrusted His whole body, mind, and soul to the redeemer and offered forgiveness for those who hurt and betrayed Him in the deepest way possible. Maybe, then, we should do the same.
One of the fruits of Spirit is love, but so is forgiveness. Sometimes I forget that. I forget that the wrongs done to me are opportunities to walk in the Spirit. Instead of focusing on how that person didn’t walk in the Spirit. Until we understand that the person we should be most concerned about on our journey of following Jesus is the one we look at in the mirror every day, we will never be able to walk humbly before our God. Instead, we’ll act as His police, trying to arrest everyone who has ever slighted us. Until we realize that the heart we need to arrest most often is our own, we will never walk in the fullness and freedom that Christ offers.
So, although having someone offer me false love and betray me was so very painful I will entrust all of it to the redeemer of my heart. I will believe in faith that He will help me walk in accordance with the Spirit, instead of serving as judge over those who’ve hurt me I will walk as a daughter of the risen King who will never leave me, nor forsake me.
Lord, being betrayed, that just was awful. But, you already understand all of that. You know what that’s like. You saw all of it. Therefore, you are redeeming it and I am walking in your redemption even now. Thank you that I have forgiveness and freedom in your love. May I walk in it today, so that I can love others with the love that flows from the Spirit, in Jesus name, Amen.

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