The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife… (1 Cor 7:4).
Sex in marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but sex in marriage is not simply meant for your personal pleasure. I believe the point of sex in marriage is to learn how to love, serve and honor another human being. Paul says as a wife, I do not have authority over my own body and neither does the man have authority over his. Everything, our sexual desires, our time, and energy, in fact our whole lives are meant not for our own selves, but to serve someone else.
This means I must be willing to set aside my own selfishness, in all aspects of my life to prioritize someone else. Can I just say, that is a really hard thing to do. Especially when your spouse needs help with chores around the house or for you to be present with them when you’d rather be busy doing something else.
I think what marriage has revealed to my own heart is that one of my biggest issues in life is not my spouses needs, but my unwillingness to die to myself to prioritize the needs of another person. It’s my personal preference over his that gets in the way or the fact that I don’t prioritize things like he does. Therefore, I don’t give them the same kind of value and thus don’t love, honor and serve my husband in a way that speaks to what is important to him.
If you’ve ever had a hard time in marriage, its probably because one or both of you are unwilling to offer up your whole self as a living sacrifice to serve God as you love and serve another person. It is so easy for me to serve someone down the street, but can be so hard fo me to serve the man I pledged my life to. Whew, that’s convicting….
Those closest to us often get the worst of us. The most selfish parts of us become what we offer them, instead of our very best to love, honor and serve them in every aspect of our lives.
Lord, I need your grace to serve my husband. Sometimes, my own personal preferences get in the way. Then, other days I choose my own desires, needs and wants over what’s going to bring him the most joy. I know that as I love and serve someone else, I am serving you. Let that be true of my life today, in Jesus name, Amen.