It does not dishonor others…(1 Cor 13:5).
Love does not….dishonor others. I’m working on this one, I really am. I’m becoming aware that the person I dishonor the most is my own husband. It’s not intentional. It just comes out. I’m realizing it makes it’s way out through teasing and sarcastic comments.
Yesterday at church someone complimented my husband and instead of simply agreeing, I took the opportunity to try and be funny. Looking back I can see how this cuts him down right in front of the person who just praised him.
Yep, no awesome wife points for me there. Just a realization that I have something about me that needs to be transformed, but gosh, this one is a hard one for me. Mainly because I don’t even notice what I’m doing at the moment, but we all have those things that we are blinded by that’s why we need the grace of God to help us see our weak spots.
Weak spots are tough though, because just like a bad golf swing that needs to be tweaked and changed it takes a lot of time to correct because we’ve been swinging that way for so long. It takes conscious effort and even feels a bit awkward at first to make a swing change, but over time it can change, but its hard work.
Our blind spots are never pleasant, but they are possible to change- with the grace of God. That’s what I’m asking God to do for me. I’m asking Him to help me only speak words that honor my husband and save the teasing comments for later. When others aren’t around.
If you’re like me and love to tease, what’s really going on is that you’re trying to steal the moment. Instead of praising the other individual, you’re trying to win the applause of others through your sense of humor. I’ve stolen lots of moments from others, because of my desire to be the “funny one.” But this is a waste of time if what’s at stake is passing up an opportunity to honor another person.
So pray for me as I would for you that words of honor towards everyone that I meet would only be what comes out of my lips. I notice the more comfortable I am with a person, the more likely I’ll start to tease them, instead of honor them before others.
Lord, give us the grace to honor others. Help me to keep my mouth shut when what is about to come out of it are comments that dishonor others. Especially those comments that cut my husband down. Please forgive me. I want to honor him. Help change my mouth, restore and beautify it for your glory, in Jesus name, Amen.